Monday, January 26, 2009

Sunday January 25th Evaluation

Jan 25th Evaluation
Hey Youth Leaders and Youth Council! Here is the next Blog Page!!!! Here is a form I hope you will respond to help us make each Sunday and each event better than the one before. My evaluation is listed below:

Weekend Scale of Difficulty: 9 (group times were ok, but we miss something without the band at Big Time)

Attendance: Junior High:90 Senior High: 48

Service Length: minutes junior high and 60 minutes senior high 45 minutes

Understandable Message: Junior high was way better from Senior High (jr high B+ senior high D+)

Volunteer/Student Involvement: youth led the small groups pretty well

Element of Fun/Positive Environment: what is your evaluation

Big Time: different without the band but good

Favorite Moment: the plan to skewer the intern made my night

Overall grade: C+

Friday, January 23, 2009

great story from the Matthews

Kurtis the Stock Boy and Brenda the Checkout Girl

In a supermarket, Kurtis the stock boy, was busily working when a new voice came over the loud speaker asking for a carry-out at register 4. Kurtis was almost finished, and wanted to get some fresh air, and decided to answer the call. As he approached the check-out stand, a distant smile caught his eye - the new check-out girl was beautiful. She was an older woman (maybe 26, and he was only 22) and he fell in love.

Later that day, after his shift was over, he waited by the punch clock to find out her name. She came into the break room, smiled softly at him, took her card and punched out, then left. He looked at her card, BRENDA. He walked out only to see her start walking up the road. Next day, he waited outside as she left the supermarket, and offered her a ride home. He looked harmless enough, and she accepted. When he dropped her off, he asked if maybe he could see her again, outside of work.. She simply said it wasn't possible.

He pressed and she explained she had two children and she couldn't afford a baby-sitter, so he offered to pay for the baby-sitter. Reluctantly, she accepted his offer for a date for the following Saturday. That Saturday night he arrived at her door only to have her tell him that she was unable to go with him. The baby-sitter had called and canceled. To which Kurtis simply said, "Well, let's take the kids with us."

She tried to explain that taking the children was not an option, but again not taking no for an answer, he pressed. Finally Brenda, brought him inside to meet her children. She had an older daughter who was just as cute as a bug, Kurtis thought. Then Brenda brought out her son, in a wheelchair. He was born a paraplegic with Down Syndrome.

Kurtis asked Brenda, "I still don't understand why the kids can't come with us?" Brenda was amazed. Most men would run away from a woman with two kids, especially if one had disabilities - just like her first husband and father of her children had done. Kurtis was not ordinary - he had a different mindset.

That evening Kurtis and Brenda loaded up the kids, went to dinner and the movies. When her son needed anything Kurtis would take care of him. When he needed to use the restroom, he picked him up out of his wheelchair, took him and brought him back. The kids loved Kurtis. At the end of the evening, Brenda knew this was the man she was going to marry and spend the rest of her life with.

A year later, they were married and Kurtis adopted both of her children. Since then they have added two more kids.

So what happened to Kurtis the stock boy and Brenda the check-out girl? Well, Mr. & Mrs. Kurt Warner now live in Arizona, where he is currently employed as the quarterback of the Arizona Cardinals, celebrating Sunday's victory and preparing for the Super Bowl.

Kurt Warner quarterbacked the Rams in Super Bowl XXXVI and has been the NFL's Most Valuable Player twice and the Super Bowl's Most Valuable Player. As great as these accomplishments are, the most important thing he has ever done, according to Kurt himself, was to trust in Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. When you check out his website, "First Things First" (based on Matthew 6:33), you will find the following testimony...

"I was raised in the church, so faith and God were part of my life, but for me it was just kind of there - there on Sundays and when I was going through a tough time. I always had God as a background, but I never truly accepted Jesus until I was about 25 years old. My arena league teammates, a pastor friend of mine, and my future wife were constantly asking questions about my beliefs, and I began to question where I was and whether I had really put my complete faith in God. Their questions led me to the Truth - that faith is about a relationship, and it's about Jesus. Up to that point, I had never really considered that I struggled for so long and so many things went against me. I was swimming upstream. When I finally gave my life over to God - it was then the joy and happiness came into my life. Now, I realize my role here on Earth is not to throw touchdown passes and win football games, although that is the position and the platform that I have been given. I realize my goal is to win as many people to Jesus as possible. I have an open-door policy, where I'm able to talk about what is most important to me, and obviously, God is #1."

Thursday, January 22, 2009

great discipline information

Apex UMC The Point PARENT NEWSLETTER
January 22, 2009
CONTENTS
1. Tools for Parenting Teens
2. Links to Learn From
3. Inside Your Teen's World
4. Learn Their Lingo
5. A Little Encouragement...And Humor
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- Reveal the reasons behind problem behavior and show you how to take a positive approach to discipline
- Teach you how to use rules and consequences effectively
- Help you evaluate your strengths and weaknesses in discipline situations (and improve your areas of weakness)
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1. TOOLS FOR PARENTING TEENS
This week is all about discipline don'ts. These four ideas will help reinforce approaching discipline in a positive manner. This excerpt from "When Church Kids Go Bad" (and they do!) will help you. (Editor's Note: This was originally written to youth workers, but applies to parenting as well.)
FOUR DISCIPLINE DON'TS
I've spent most of this chapter offering a variety of ideas about what you can do to respond effectively to everyday discipline challenges. But before we close, let's look at a few important "don'ts" of discipline:
DON'T EXPECT YOU'LL ALWAYS BE POPULAR
When youth leaders complain they can't control their young people, I frequently ask, "Do they do what you ask them to do?" The answer is often, "Yeah, they do it--but I don't like the way they do it. It's their attitude, you see." When I pursue the issue, I find that many leaders think teens should not only be compliant, but also should be delighted over the opportunity to comply.
But teenagers are usually not happy about being corrected--that's a lesson we all learn eventually. One ministry I worked with had a rule that no smoking was allowed during our week at camp. One year, a counselor saw a kid lighting up during free time. Since this kid had never camped with us before, the counselor went to the young person, explained the rule, and asked the camper to put out the cigarette. The camper complied, but the counselor was upset the student didn't look thrilled at being told he wouldn't be allowed to smoke all week. Rather than getting bent out of shape, the counselor probably should have been appreciative that the camper complied with his wishes. Agreeing not to smoke for the week may have been very difficult for this kid--especially since he didn't share the counselor's opinion on the value of cigarette smoking (or lack of it).
Don't expect your students will like every single thing you ask them to do. Simply because you want a young person to stop a certain behavior does not mean she'll no longer have that desire. Don't hassle a kid who complies just because she doesn't seem happy about it. I'm not saying you should accept backtalk or nastiness, but don't declare war just because the kid has an expression on her face that says, "This is a dumb rule." Don't even try to convince her immediately that it is a good rule. You can explain your reasoning at a later time when the person is ready to talk.
DON'T EMBARRASS TEENAGERS PUBLICLY
If you've spent hours preparing a lesson, the last thing you want is a disruption in the group. It can be tempting to say something in response that might embarrass the troublemaker, and make him or her feel humiliated. But before you do so, consider the consequences.
Teenagers are incredibly self-conscious. Your remark may stop the troublemaking behavior, but the resulting embarrassment could cost you a group member. And that one embarrassed teenager will probably tell five or six friends what you did--and you may lose them, too. Most outbursts are designed to get your attention. You reward troublemakers when you stop everything to focus on them.
DON'T RESORT TO DESTRUCTIVE CRITICISM OR NAME-CALLING
A pinch of constructive criticism is part of the recipe for any good youth group. Unfortunately, many youth leaders shovel the criticism out by the truckload--and that can do more harm than good.
Here are some helpful hints on using criticism constructively. First of all, critique the behavior, not the person. Criticizing someone lowers that person's self-esteem and feelings of self-worth. Separate the behavior from the person.
Remember that it takes eight positive comments to make up for a single negative one--and that includes those critical comments we intend to be constructive. Be sensitive to the individual. Share your insights with a young person at a time when he's not surrounded by his peers, when both of you are not rushed, and after you've taken time to gain his respect.
Maybe a young person has a problem with hygiene and you know other kids are avoiding him because of his body odor. This problem needs to be pointed out to the young person, but it must be done very gently--not with a condemning attitude, but with a spirit of love and support. If you are going to point out a problem or concern, make sure you also offer practical solutions; otherwise your criticism can merely destroy the person you want to help.
No matter what happens, never resort to name-calling. All teenagers have certain imperfections about which they are overly sensitive. The world takes notice of them to tease and ridicule. If a teenager is small, he's called "shorty," "squirt," "shrimp," or "runt." If he's tall and thin, he's "beanpole" or "stick." If he's overweight, it might be "fatso" or "blimp." If he's weak or uncoordinated, he might be "wimp" or "geek." Teenagers suffer deeply from such nicknames, even when they feign indifference.
In general it's best for adult leaders to avoid teasing their young people, even in jest. Insults cut deeper and last longer when they come from an adult youth leader. We can learn to communicate without sarcasm and ridicule. There is no place for biting comments in conversations between adult leaders and young people. Sarcasm evokes hatred and provokes counterattacks.
Criticism of personality and character gives a young person negative feelings about herself. A young person who is made to feel stupid accepts such evaluation as fact. She may give up intellectual pursuits to escape ridicule. Since competition means failure, her safety depends on not trying.
DON'T THREATEN WHAT YOU CANNOT OR WILL NOT DO
Have you ever gotten so frustrated--after trying every method imaginable to quiet your group--that you yelled out a threat so idiotic your kids knew you would never follow through on it? Something similar to, "If you kids don't shut up, I'll never allow you to go on another church activity as long as you live!" They may stop the noise for a second, until they realize you'd never do such a thing. Empty threats don't help at all. In fact, such false statements just let kids know they have you!
The freshmen who enter our youth group each September are often a bit intimidated because they are the youngest ones in the group. One skit we do each year breaks the ice and helps those young people get a glimpse of one aspect of our discipline methods. As the young people come into the room on a particular week, I start trying to quiet them down--but I don't try very hard. Eventually, I pretend I'm getting mad and finally yell out, "If you kids don't shut up, I'm going to rip your arms off!"
Well, it always gets deadly silent--except for one eleventh-grader in the front row who continues to talk loudly. I walk directly to that student (who's still talking) and repeat, "I told you--if you don't shut up, I'm
going to rip your arms off." At this point you could hear a pin drop in the room. Every eye is on me and this one young person (who is still the only one talking). I reach over and grab him by the arm...
What the new freshmen don't know is that I got together with this eleventh-grader before the meeting and fixed him up so he has a mannequin's arm up his sleeve. After I grab the arm, I yank it right out of his sleeve. The freshmen kids in the back are screaming, "He did it! He really did it!" The kids quickly realize we were kidding--and everybody has a good laugh. But then I explain that if we say we're going to do something in this youth group, they can bet we will follow through on it.
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Les Christie has spent more than forty years in youth ministry, including more than twenty years in the same church. An energetic speaker, Les also chairs the youth ministry department at William Jessup University. He's the author of more than a dozen books and lives in California with his wife, Gretchen, where he no longer has to discipline his two grown sons, Brent and David.
Learn more about and purchase "When Church Kids Go Bad" here:
http://www.youthspecialties.com/shop/product_info.php?products_id=431
*Save 30% off the retail price of "When Church Kids Go Bad" when you use Coupon Code YPN193 and order by 2/4/09.
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2. LINKS TO LEARN FROM
Teen Smokers Dismiss Peer Pressure [Press Association UK]
http://www.google.com/hostednews/ukpress/article/ALeqM5hgxbuDOBFGlcIpMTEkqewpG-fjIA
Communicate Openly About the Tough Issues Too [San Marcos Record]
http://www.sanmarcosrecord.com/features/local_story_020125523.html
Friendship at the Center of Adolescent Life [Irish Times]
http://www.irishtimes.com/newspaper/health/2009/0120/1232059660968.html
Future of Abstinence-Only Education in Limbo [Associated Press]
http://www.google.com/hostednews/ap/article/ALeqM5jp6w3u-FGlN-0E0LAtik9qdRYBpQD95PN0PO0

3. INSIDE YOUR TEEN'S WORLD
...Random things you may not have heard about...
Sponge Bob Square Pants Turns 10
http://news.moneycentral.msn.com/ticker/article.aspx?Feed=PR&Date=20090116&ID=9520906&Symbol=VIA
MTV/AP Partner on a Survey of What Stresses Out College Students
http://www.ypulse.com/mtv-surveys-college-students-on-what-stresses-them-out/

4. LEARN THEIR LINGO
...Some slang and texting lingo for you to speak (or at least understand)
- Mall feet = Tired feet from walking too much.
- For reals = Means the same as the variants "for real" and the now- archaic "for serious", but in 2009, the extra "s" is essential for comprehension.
5. A LITTLE ENCOURAGEMENT...AND HUMOR
"Always end the name of your child with a vowel, so that when you yell the name will carry."
~ Bill Cosby

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Friday, January 2, 2009

happy new year an dback to the POINT

Happy New Year From the POINT! Here is what is up!
No Cards and Cafeine at Boodas Beans Today, Friday January 2nd!

Sunday January 4th, 2009
(All Point Activities will occur in the Sanctuary and FH 2 because of our hosting Wake Interfaith Hospitality Network)
Here is the schedule:
Youth Brass Ensamble meets at 2:00 in the Sanctuary
Youth Handbells meet at 3:30 in the choir room
Junior High-4:30-in the Sanctuary
Supper-5:30-in Fellowship Hall 2
Youth Choir Meeting Sunday at 5:45 in the Choir Room:
Big Time (Junior High and Senior High)-6:00-in the Sanctuary
Senior High-6:30-in the Sanctuary


We will be continuing to take a Special all God’s children offering in January to help sponsor three All God’s Children UMC youth to attend FCA Camp this summer. This will be a part of our Christmas gifts to them. Please bring your offering in an envelope and put it in Lee Barnes’ mailbox by the nursery in the CLC. Thanks for Helping Out!

What is Hang Time? Come out for a special announcement this Sunday at the POINT for junior and Senior High!!!!!!!

Coming UP at the POINT:
We will have youth on our Regular Schedule January 11,18,and 25th .
Here is the schedule:
Youth Brass Ensamble meets at 2:00 in the Sanctuary
Youth Handbells meet at 3:30 in the choir room
Junior High-4:30
Supper-5:30
Youth Choir Meeting Sunday at 5:45 in the Choir Room:
Big Time (Junior High and Senior High)-6:00
Senior High-6:30
(all events take place in the CLC)

We will have our Cards and Caffeine small group at Boodas Beans on Friday January 16th from 3:00-5:00.

We will be having our parent/youth Confirmation 2009 organizational meeting on Sunday January 25th in the Sanctuary from 3:00-4:00. All ages are welcome to attend if you have not been confirmed. Meeting schedule, retreat dates, and small groups will be discussed.